(not just consumption)
If you’re feeling like it’s a frenzied craziness of competition and consumption out there during this time of joy and abundance, you’re not alone. If you’d rather not partake in the mania, you don’t have to, it’s your internal decision – truly. Learn to deflect the badgering and raise your consciousness to give from your heart and within, where it really counts for true joy in abundance.
It can be hard to navigate through the messages delivered to us more acutely this time of year, promising us joy and satisfaction when we get more of what’s being sold. It’s enough to make you feel like a fragmented person, to the point of cringing, and who can only become whole again when you buy the latest answers to your dilemmas – and others. Adding more to the already expansive lists.
The media and advertisers are very good at delegating your behavior and keeping you externally focused on what they’re selling and it’s usually through fear tactics (yes fear tactics), because they play on emotions. They’re skilled at telling you what to buy for play, to eat for satisfaction and pleasure, to drink for enjoyment, to think for happiness, and so on… The messages are abundant, and they tell us what we need to do, should do, that there’s not enough until we buy – they use fear based from scarcity. Think about it.
If you’re not aware of all the external fear messaging designed to keep you wanting more, they’ll keep you in a gluttonous and frenzied state of existence – buying to find joy.
Stop the mass hysteria from out there and get real, true joy stems from gratitude not purchases. Joy doesn’t make us grateful. It’s gratitude that makes us joyful. And that comes from within you when you reflect on what you already have and you’re grateful for. Not what you’ve been ‘sold’ you’re missing. See the difference?
All of this isn’t to say that presents shouldn’t be purchased. The act of giving and receiving is a beautiful thing. But there’s a distinction that happens when it comes from the internal focus of our hearts, and not the external fear from the media/advertising ranking system.
If this is ringing true for you, then think about this before you buy:
Are you giving to fit in?
Why do I (my kids) need this?
Do I feel good about this?
Remember, gratitude doesn’t come with a price tag, and there for joy requires no purchase at all, but a raising of consciousness. AND please know the gifts of you – your time – your energy – your attention – are some of the best gifts of all.
Arlene Figueroa is a Parent Coach at Circle4Parents. Please check out her Bio and feel free to enroll in any of her sessions.